June 17, 2018

“Our children are our legacies.” - Richard Jock, FNHA Chief Operating Officer (COO)

I have always considered being a father as my most important job. We may spend much time and energy in our day jobs, but I really believe that the true lasting legacy is represented through our children and then through grandchildren and so on.

In my own family, beginning with my grandmother, and continuing through my parents, there was and is a focus on treating us all equally, recognizing that we all have different interests, gifts, and ways of doing things.

My parents went to all my games over many years and did the same for my siblings – who possess all the musical talents in the family. They also had clear rules and expectations for behaviour, and this was also passed on to our children. Imagine my surprise when my eldest daughter recently wrote that this was something valued and appreciated by her and the other children.

We have invested in our children in sport through coaching basketball and lacrosse, active living in skiing, and in traditional and powwow dancing. All of these activities have returned many dividends in skills and lessons that have shaped and enriched their lives.  We can certainly see as well as this interest continues with the grandchildren.

In today's times of blended families, principles of fairness and equal treatment are even more important, our family included. I would also say that parenting is a team effort. My partner Virginia and I, however, find it an easy joy to have grandchildren, and to watch their development and their beauty.

We wish all Indigenous fathers and grandfathers much joy and encouragement this weekend as we pause for Father's Day, and as we prepare to collectively continue these important jobs going forward!

Next: more FNHA fathers’ stories!